And you tried calling her and even texted her asking her to get in touch and guess what? She didn't get back. Hours or even days may pass before she returns your call. It's her way of biding her time so that she doesn't seem too eager or interested. She doesn't want to think that she can be had so easily. After a few days, you can call her up again just to make sure that she got all those messages. Keep your tone very polite but curt. Let her get the message that if she doesn't respond this time, you're going to move on!
She suddenly becomes as frosty as an orange slushy and you have no idea what you have done to arouse her wrath. She is upset or angry and feels you are responsible for it but she wants you to figure it out for yourself.
When she behaves like this and refuses to communicate with you, chances are that whatever you did isn't all that serious. Perhaps, you didn't notice her new earrings or wolfed down the chocolate cake that she had baked from scratch without appreciating and congratulating her for her efforts. So, don't keep asking her again and again about where you went wrong, as this will only make her all the more frosty.
The fact is that if you honestly have no idea where you had slipped you simply can't apologise. Give her the space she needs to cool down and use the time trying to figure out where you could have gone wrong.
When she feels ready to talk again she will approach you, glare at you with those big beautiful eyes, make huffing sounds that would make her look all the more desirable. Just hold her and cuddle her and ask her where you went wrong and sincerely apologise no matter how trivial you think your error was. She starts acting all confused and helpless and suddenly you find yourself driving all across the town, and wasting an entire day doing her bidding. This usually happens when she wants you to do something for her that she wouldn't do herself.
To get you to take care of it, she'll act clueless and play on the "I don't know how to do that" angle. Be sure if she's play-acting or is genuinely in need of help. Though, you can sometimes suck it up and do it yourself. But if you make a habit of it, then she will too. The best thing would be to teach her whatever she doesn't know, while you do it. This way, she'll have no excuse the next time around. But the thing is, you're pretty available. She knows you're pretty available.
And no matter how badly she wants to see you, something always seems to come up. I'll tell you what she's doing. She's keeping you on the back burner. She wants you around for attention. She knows you're into her and doesn't want that to change, so she gives you just enough attention to keep you on the hook while she focuses on the guy she's actually into. You had to muster up the courage to come up to her at the bar. Then you had to text her the next day.
Then you had to keep the conversation going for long enough to finally ask her out. Then you had to initiate every subsequent conversation and date for the rest of time. It's not that she ever rejects you. Whenever you reach out, she's there, all smiley and attentive. But you can't help but wonder, if you stopped making all the moves, would there just be radio silence? Does she even really like you, or is she just humoring you?
Here's how to tell. If you're constantly rescheduling with her, odds are she's bored. She keeps you around as an option for when she's feeling lonely. If she's good about sticking to the plans she makes with you, she really could be into you What kind of torture is she trying to put you through?!
This feels like some sort of cruel and unusual torture. OK, so here's the deal. Is she taking forever to respond, or is she just straight-up not responding? Tell her how you feel about her. It may seem counterintuitive to open up emotionally to someone you think might be playing games with you, but it could be the perfect solution. If you are sincere and she knows how you feel, she'll be more likely to answer honestly. If she is playing games with you, she may recognize that this isn't a joke to you.
Let her know when you feel like she is playing games with you. Don't be passive aggressive, just tell her that sometimes the way she acts hurts your feelings. No one is completely heartless — if she's playing games with you she may stop because she knows that it hurts you. Once again, don't get angry. Just let her know calmly that it makes you sad when she acts a certain way.
Method 2. Consider how invested she seems in you. Does the attention she gives you constantly vary? Does talk about how she is attracted to other people constantly? Merely talking about other guys is not necessarily a bad sign. She may just have guys in her life who she's close to. However, if she routinely talks about how attracted she is to another guy not you , she may not be into you.
Pay attention to how she talks about the relationship. Does she deny being in a relationship with you to other people, even her closest friends? If she denies dating you when talking to her friends she might be acting in a manipulative manner.
People sometimes like to keep their new love interests out of the spotlight in the event that you have no interest in them. However, once you're dating and everything is exclusive, there is no reason she should be worried to discuss you with her friends. Assess whether or not you feel safe in the relationship. If you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her or that you are always waiting for the next explosion, you may be in an unhealthy relationship.
This is really a gut feeling, but you probably already know the answer. Notice how she interacts with your friends and family. In a healthy relationship, your partner should do their part to try to interact civilly with the important people in your life. If they are constantly putting down your friends and family they may be trying to isolate you from the people who matter to you. Whether they are doing this consciously or subconsciously, it is still manipulative and unhealthy. Ask your friends for advice.
You might have friends who were waiting to tell you that this girl was playing games with you. Method 3. Watch out for angry outbursts. If she frequently sulks when you disagree with her or when you tell her you're unavailable to do something with her, it might be time to get suspicious.
Consider whether she is willing to return favors.
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